Promiscuity is a “promised skewed”. Five years into my Christian walk, delving deeper into the word of God, I felt the Lord speak this into my spirit one day in prayer. He was bringing me into a deeper revelation of Christ, but also the misconception we, humans, are in complete control over our lives.
We all have
been tempted one way or another. If you
have the knowledge or have grown up in the church, the ways of the Lord should
have been instilled from a young age.
Sadly, only 4% of today’s youth who know Jesus Christ as their Savior,
stay with the faith. The world is
enticing, lust is tantalizing and pleasure is luring. Our finite minds, our narcissistic brains are
truly deceived in believing we can “handle” all things. Just a little bite we may say, just a little
flirt, just a quick hit and never once do we imagine that “little” turning into
a full blown raging temptation and stronghold.
Marriages
are failing. There is a world wide
epidemic which spreads and festers like the bubonic plague killing everything
it touches. I have heard many say the
bible is antiqued, old, for a culture that no longer exists and the church has to
“evolve”. Sorrowfully, the church is
evolving by adapting to the ever changing philosophies of the world. My sister in Christ, the bible is as relevant
today as it was thousands of years ago and do you know why? Human nature has not changed. We are still tempted, we still fall and we
still seek the desires which please our own sinful nature because “that is what
makes us feel good”. Well, just because
it makes you “feel good” does not mean it is right.
Christians
are to be foreigners in this world, living a godly life, but not adapting to
the world’s disasters way. With
technology at our fingertips, adultery and sexual sin can be easily accessible
to any age with the ability to search the web.
If our bodies respond to the sight of a man scantily clothed, if our minds
lust and continue with “vain imaginations” desiring fifty shades of male
satisfaction and if we long for movies portraying ridiculous damsels in
distress, saved by knowledgeable hands to please, we are falling into the
enemy’s lair.
Jesus
declares the eyes are the lamp of the body, if what we put into our body is
dark, then how dark it truly is (Matthew
6:22-23). If we open those temptations,
that crack in the door can swing wide open for “game on”. My children have never watched movies, videos
or have been encouraged to watch television with half dressed people. Tommy and I choose not to awaken desires a young
mind can not handle or know what to do with the exposure. As adults, we hardly
should be the “good Samaritan” encouraging young children to “explore” when our
own lives spiral out of control.
At a young
age, I was exposed to pornography, magazines, movies, television and pictures
regarding sexual images. My family, of
course, did not encourage this behavior, but there was something in my flesh
that wanted to see. I did not realize
the false impressions those images would lead to. Looking at women, thinking I did not measure
up to their beauty, I had a low self esteem.
Today, I know I am a child of the Most High, formed and molded into the image
He decided. Looking at those images, I
had a skewed interpretation of what a marriage, sex and intimacy truly
was. I had no idea the purity, innocence
and love that God had in mind for marriage ever existed. It would take the Lord eight years to teach
me His love, how I am to love and the difference the Christian faith is to have
on the world.
The
adulterous woman mentioned in the Gospel of John was caught in infidelity,
ironically, the man was not mentioned.
Using this woman, her infidelity as a ploy, the “religious” sector apparently
had knowledge of this rapport, but chose to look the other way. This scheming
did not deceive Jesus. “Teacher, this
woman was caught in the act of adultery.
In the Law, Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you
say?” (John 8:4-5). Jesus bent down
and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he
straightened up and said to them, “If any one of you
is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.” (John
8:6-8).
This
situation always reminds me of the shepherd boy who defeated the giant. Listening to the taunts of a certain arrogant
Philistine, David obediently follows the prompting of the Lord to fight this
Goliath. Did you catch the sentence above,
“When they kept on questioning him…?” The Pharisees thought they had Jesus
cornered and condescendingly continue to question Christ as did Goliath believe
he had trumped God’s people forgetting but one small, minor detail, “If God is
for us, who can be against us?” (Romans
8:31).
As David
quickly ran to the battle, Jesus did not walk away bewildered, befuddled as if
asking, “What do I do?” He stooped to the ground, prayed, asking God for the
answer, just as the shepherd boy stooped to the ground gathering five stones
praying for the courage only God can give.
David yelled to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and
spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the
God of the armies of Israel,
whom you have defied.” (1 Samuel 17:45)
David slung the stone trouncing the giant as did Jesus when he stood up and
mockingly said, “If any one of you is without sin, let him be
the first to throw a stone at her.” (John 8:6-8).
The forgiveness of God is
precious. His grace, his mercy and his
love for those who are his children is abounding, although we are to never take
it for granted. If sexual sin is a
temptation for you, if there is a man who your heart lusts after, whether at
work, in church, a friend or a television personality, you are commanded to
master it! God told Cain, “Why are you
so angry, why are you so downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be
accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must
master it.” (Genesis 4:6-7). God
told Cain this before he sinned. We read
his Word today, the Bible, with its intuitive promises for our habitual sin; he
has given us the ability to “master” it before the sin desires to have us.
When you
dangle the carrot, when your flesh opens the door with just one pornographic
movie, when your shirt is just a little too low for enticing or when you
purposing find yourself strategically planning to tempt another Christian man
to fall, the crouching becomes entangling, and the entangling becomes a
reality. My honesty in prayer with the
Lord has strengthened me for the encroachment of sin. My flesh may respond to a sexual sin, a look
from the opposite sex or feeling of “I still got it” from a flirtatious remark,
but in the end, that small spark will ignite devastation to your marriage, your
family and maybe your soul.
When
tempted to watch a movie I know is enticing, when I have seen the look of
attraction from a man and my flesh jumps in response to think vain thoughts, I
respond with the Word of God. The Apostle Paul wrote a master piece when he
penned the book of Ephesians, the weapons of our warfare and who sin actually
is following. Ephesians 2:1-7 reads,
“As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used
to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the
kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are
disobedient. All of us also lived among
them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature and following
its desires and thoughts. Like the rest,
we were by nature objects of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God
who is rich in mercy, made us a live with Christ even when we were dead in
transgressions, it is by grace you have been saved. And God raised us up with Christ and seated
us with him in the heavenly realms in Chris Jesus, in order that in the coming
ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness
to us in Christ Jesus.”
What a powerful
message. If we are saved by the Blood of
the Lamb, we are no longer conforming to the “ruler of the kingdom of the
air”. Ironically, how do we get much of
our “sinful” information? Technology is an amazing, life changing invention,
but the air waves are clouded with entrapments and diversions to keep you
chained and in bondage. But if we set
our minds on things above, seated in the heavenly realms, we have already
defeated our stronghold.
I want to encourage you my sister
in Christ, the temptations are real. It
may be as simple as responding yes to a Facebook request of an old boyfriend,
fiancé or flame. You can handle it
right? Oh, look at those pictures, isn’t
his family cute. I’ll just message him,
tell him I much I love those pictures and what I’ve been up to. Woman, fight that urge to open that door a
crack. There is a reason you are not
with a particular person, but given to your husband in matrimony.
The
temptation may come during a difficult time in your marriage. The work, the kids, the pressures can be
draining and exhausting. You may confess
your fatigue to a pastor, friend or male co worker as innocently as answering
the question, “How are you?” The conversation begins, noticing similar patterns
in the marriage, similar problems, why not pray and talk over coffee during
lunch. There you have it; an open door to the probability of temptation. Your intentions may be of complete innocence,
but if your male counterpart shows more attention to you, captivatingly listening
and you to him, your thoughts towards attraction and not your family, here begins
a dangerous problem.
I believe
women are to pray with women. I believe
women should confess their problems, concerns and trials to other godly,
deaconesses or women of the church. Do
not open the door for the devil’s foothold.
Pray for a trusted prayer warrior to stand in the gap with you and your
marriage. God gave me Cathie to pray,
fast and confess with. Although she
lives in Texas and I in Florida,
although we have the Gulf of Mexico between us
and communicate via phone, we pray continuously, talk and confess our
temptations to one another. She is an
accountability partner and I to her. God
will give you this person if you already do not have one.
I encourage
you to fight for your marriage, turn OFF the television, spend time together
and reconnect. If you find yourself
thinking of another man, then pray and ask the Lord for answers. Why are you thinking of him? What does that
man offer you husband does not? Is it
just physical or does the tempter fill a void emotionally your spouse does
not? Once you have your answer, begin
armoring yourself with the Lord’s protective covering, maybe fast a meal a day
until you have victory over your thoughts and mind and prayerfully ask God for
a godly prayer warrior, who will confidently pray for you.
Tommy and I
both understand the temptations of this world.
We both have been tempted while married, we both confessed our hearts to
one another and we both keep each other in prayer. I am not naive for I know my weaknesses and
attempt to stay on the offensive before the attacks come. I have only a few male friends on social
media sites, I will never disclose my most difficult temptations while alone
with a male pastor or friend, nor do I even like being alone in the same room
with another man. I have trusted male
friends I do feel comfortable with and I know these men, have prayed with most,
but I also know the enemy. I feel more
comfortable with Tommy as my covering, standing side by side with me and if a
man needs prayer, I direct him toward godly men.
Sweet
sister, the Word of God is alive, full of hope, power and direction. You can stop these thoughts and temptations,
renew your mind in Christ Jesus, and transform into the Christian woman Christ
knows you can be. God is no respecter of
persons and offers the same promises to you as I have. Believe and stand in the Blood of the Lamb,
offer your prayers with pure motive and lay your temptations at the cross!
Let us pray and CONFESS
the Word of the Living God:
Abba Father,
Forgive me
Lord, for I have sinned. My heart and my
mind have lusted, my flesh has fallen and I need the power of our resurrected
Christ to mend my spirit. I understand
the struggle plaguing the Apostle Paul as he wrote “the fleshly war” doing the
very things my spirit does not want to do, for it is sin living in me that does
it. (Romans 7:18-19). Please teach
me your ways, help me fight when I feel tempted by the enemy for I know Father,
you do not tempt me with evil (James
1:13) I pray to confess scripture and declare as Jesus, “it is written” for
I desire to think on things above while the enemy lusts for the things of this
earth (Mark 8:33).
I pray my
mind is receptive, alert and guarded with the weapons of our warfare (Ephesians 6:10-18): the helmet of
salvation to guard my mind and thought, the breastplate of righteousness to
cover my heart from the flaming arrows of the enemy. The shoes of peace for when my mind and flesh
begin to wonder or think upon these worldly things, I pray to purposefully
spread the gospel, walk or run to the need of others and determined to be a
blessing to get my mind off of myself.
May I put
on the belt of truth, for following Jesus, I have determined to prepare my
heart for action, keeping my mind on things above seated at the right hand of
the Father and remove what is unclean from my heart for Jesus said, “What comes out of a man is what makes him unclean. For from
within, out of men’s hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft,
murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and
folly. All these evils come from inside
and make a man unclean.” (Mark
7:20-23). Give me the strength
through all things, helping me turn off the world. When I feel the pull to sin,
may I be a woman of God, using the word of God as a double edge sword of the
spirit rebuking all lies, manipulation, confusing and vain imaginations from
the enemy. I pray my shield of faith never be dry, quenching the fiery darts of
the adversary.
I believe I
am a new creation in Christ, the old has passed and the new spills forth as a
sweet offering before my God (2
Corinthians 5:17). Lord you know my
heart, the things I am going to say, do and think before I put into action (Psalm 139). I desire Christ in my inner most being (Psalm 51:6). But, when my desire to sin with “sexual
immorality, impurity and debauchery, idolatry and witchcraft, hatred, discord,
jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy;
drunkenness, orgies and the like” (Galatians
5: 19-21), I will confess to be
more than a conqueror to this world and repent from following the ways of the
“kingdom of the ruler of the air” (Ephesians
2:1-7). Help me to think on what is
true, noble, right, pure, lovely and admirable (Philippians 4:8), filled with the fruits of the spirit with love,
joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self
control (Galatians 5:22-23). I know the enemy comes to kill, steal and
destroy, but Christ came that I might have life and live it to the fullest (John 10:10). I know all things work together for those who
love him and called according to his purpose (Romans 8:28) and if I humble myself before the Lord, he will lift
me up and give me honor (James 4:10).
If the enemy tempts with sexual sin, alcohol,
drugs, laziness, thieving, hatred, bitterness, rage or manipulation, give me
the spirit of a warrior and declare, “The Lord is with you, mighty warrior of
God” (Judges 6:12).
Help me fall
in love with Jesus Christ more and more.
Help me be as Mary, anointing Christ with my temptation and struggles
for only He can renew a broken heart. I
pray His hand of favor touches my mind to rebuke all ungodly thoughts knowing
this too shall pass for it is the flesh desiring to be fulfilled. I know this desire for a drink, this desire
for a drug, this desire for bodily pleasure from adulterous thoughts or sex,
this desire to gluttonously consume more that I should and this desire for
unbridled anger for well deserved retaliation is not the portrait or imagine of
Christ. My spirit’s desire is to follow
you more than the body’s desire for pleasure; show me how to turn off my mind,
the television, the computer or electronics when world gratification flashes
continually before me. If I am tempted
by men, give me the strength to turn my head when faced with enticement, to
turn off the television, movies or computer when lured to watch and be
distracted from my husband. I know we
are held to a higher standard than the world for Jesus said, “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a man lustfully has
already committed adultery with him in her heart.” (Matthew 5:28). If
I am tempted by alcohol, drugs or any other addiction, give me the strength to
stay far away from where I know it will be.
I believe I
am forgiven. If I have backslidden, then
I will use my testimony to teach others the repercussions, the power to fight
this spiritual battle in the heavenlies and the love of Christ who knows all of
our temptations. Praise God for the
cross, praise God for the strength in Christ Jesus and I praise you Lord for your
forgiveness and being ever so patient, gently leading me to the purpose
declared for my life. In the name of
Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.
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